In life, we come across many people who are willing to give their opinion on any number of matters. We can choose who we listen to on these matters, but some voices in our lives are more important than others. We should also consider our words and the impact we have on others’ lives as well. Words matter!
Critics are consumed with providing negative feedback. They are more than willing to tell us what’s wrong, what could have been better, and where we fall short. Critics can find the negative in the middle of a victory. Whether the aim is to tear another down, elevate oneself, or merely be the bearer of negative news, critics are always there to bring attention to our shortfall or failure.
Coaches, on the other hand, have their sole focus on developing, improving, and bringing out the best in others. Authentic coaching can be hard, but the purpose is to help another reach their potential. While negative things are addressed, there is a healthy balance of correction and affirmation. In every case, the point is to elevate not deflate, inspire not destroy, and to motivate not discourage.
Cheerleaders are different. Now, I am not talking about the spirit groups on the sidelines. I am referring to those people that are just constant encouragers. They stand beside you even when you don’t deserve it. They are on your side even when you are wrong. Cheerleaders are there for you unconditionally and help you build on dreams, pursue the challenging, and discover the best in yourself.
We all need coaches in our lives and to be coaches at times. The Apostle Paul talks about this matter in 2 Timothy chapter 2 when he refers to his “coaching” to Timothy and encourages Timothy to take that same approach to others. We need to be willing to take coaching and learn from others to move forward in our life and reach our potential. Similarly, we need to be willing to invest what we have in others to help them reach their potential. You don’t have to be an expert to coach. You just must be willing to invest – invest in others.
We also need cheerleaders in our life. There are times when we need to be reminded of our strengths, our value, and just what we can do. In the midst of disappointment, failure, or hopelessness, a cheerleader helps restore perspective, regain hope, and replenish the will to move forward. Cheerleaders don’t get caught up in facts and analysis. Rather, they are merely committed to us! Think of those people in your life that may need you to be a cheerleader for them. It works both ways.
With respect to critics, there are plenty of them in the world. The world doesn’t need you to be a critic. You do need to navigate through the critics though. If you can learn something, learn it. However, don’t spend too much time listening to critics. Critics aren’t looking out for your best interest. Choose wisely who you listen to and seek coaches not critics!
The keys to navigating the challenges of life are to accept coaching when needed, be a coach when possible, and be a part of a “cheerleading” team because you will need it at some point!
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